Best Divorce Lawyers in Broward County
Keeping Costs Down In A South Florida Divorce
My Philosophy as a Female Divorce Lawyer Serving Palm Beach County and Broward County
Take Control and Formulate a Strategy Divorce is like no other field of law. Reason and business sense should reign but for a period of time does not. With my twenty-three years of experience in divorce, the “heat” reduces after 90-120 days. My clients either start out or eventually get near the “business zone” to exercise rational decision making skills. They get coached to compartmentalize their anger and pain and view the process as a series of “business” decisions, with each decision made over the weeks and months having financial and emotional consequences.
Are we fighting over “things”? What is the cost of the appraisal and attendant legal fees?
Divorce Trials are Expensive In Palm Beach and Broward County
I have a set of experts to draw from, but the enormous cost of litigation has to be acknowledged. What is the extra unreasonable demand and how many months will it take away your ability to concentrate on your business? Sleepless nights? Pre-occupation with the slings and small and large humiliations? The litigation process has a beginning, middle and end. Make the leap only when you are clear and committed.
South Florida Divorce Trials Are Tough
Litigation is not for the faint-hearted. As soon as it begins, the blood pressure goes up as well as the paranoia level, which is necessary. Going back to the prehistoric times, humankind needed to be prepared to fight the enemy, but now, in litigation, the new enemy is your former soulmate, an outrageously intimate sparring partner determined to use every weakness.
Divorce Settlement in Florida
But let me interject here, the overwhelming majority of divorces are settled. The majority of parents and mates exercise good judgment, business judgment, civility and nobility when it comes to the children. Know your partner’s history. Make your strategy at the beginning and keep humble. In this time of crisis, businesses fail, concentration declines. Battle does not always entail blows and aggression. Negotiation strategies that play into your opponent’s strengths as well as weaknesses work better. You get more with honey. Do not threaten your intimate enemy; they know your strength cards. Discuss and think of the short- and long-term consequences of your decisions. Under the right conditions, be kind. This is a time of ultimate crisis. Do not compound the problem. Do not discuss your spouse’s perceived atrocities with the world. If you smear your spouse’s reputation, your reputation will also be smeared.
Who Should you Tell About Your Divorce?
Get one close-mouthed friend to confide in— and, if needed, a therapist. Think twice about telling relatives about your divorce. Your relatives and friends will remember what was said and how everyone acted long after you either personally reconciled to the separation or back together with the monster. You cannot control their feelings or your own. You can only control your own actions. Angry, ill-considered words wound.
Keeping Your Children Safe and Secure During Divorce in Florida
Wounding your own children during your divorce is unforgivable and will haunt you. When all is falling at your feet during your divorce you still remain in control of how you act at this moment. You are making a choice, a choice to hurt your own children. Never make them worry about being thrown out in the street. Never make them worry that there is no money for food or that they’ll starve. NEVER. NEVER. NEVER. Your job is to reassure them that they are secure. That both daddy and mommy love them and that will never change. Encourage time with the other parent. Remember your child is one-half “theirs.” The partner you make into a monster is 1/2 the DNA of your child. Sons are 1/2 dad and all male, growing up to be measuring dad as a role-model. Same with daughters and mothers. Don’t make your child one-half of a monster. Battle in court, not in the child arena. Self-hatred is not a gift to any child.
Litigation requires producing records of your entire financial and business history. This burden is costly. Get your act together early. Save for attorney’s fees, yours and your spouse’s. There are lists of mandatory documents. Produce voluminously early on so no one suspects for too long. Don’t get huffy. Don’t fight the process. Minimize costs. Control what you can.
CONTROL Size up the situation, the parties, the attorneys. The litigation process. Figure out how much it will cost through trial and through mediation, which is mandatory. Educate yourself. Talk to your lawyer. Immerse yourself for a few months. Then realize that you do have control. You can enrage your soon-to-be ex. The consequences of bringing the children home late and turning off your cell phone is war and retaliation. Cutting off his cell phone has consequences.
YOUR CREDIT Control the address of your bills. It is your job to make sure your credit is not ruined and that you don’t pay your bills late. If your spouse didn’t spoon feed you your bill, call up, get the balance and send a check.
VISITATION If you didn’t get your child support, do not withhold visitation. File for contempt. My office is the place to vent for 90 days, then get down to business and make business decisions.
I represent both women and men. No one sex has a halo, nor does any one spouse. Each case is unique. The law forms outlines upon which your case facts are an overlay. Law, like medicine, is a science of experimentation and unexpected and expected results. Judges decide cases, pausing to view you under a microscope and make the decisions you foolishly refused to make for yourself. However bad your case, you must cut your losses and make further choices.
2300 Glades Road, 203 East / Boca Raton, Florida 13431 / (561) 961-8130 (SE Corner at Butts Road intersection behind Amoco station)